All is far in love and war. What does that saying really mean?Are they presuming that the two are very similar?I can’t be too positive that it was the intended meaning, but there are a lot of things that are similar between the two.
The similarities between the two I think are when that love becomes war.There may still be love between the couple but a lot of times they will act as if they are in a war. I have seen this first hand doing couples counseling San Diego.A couple that once used to be loving now are constantly in battle. It is my goal to bring peace to the two.And reclaim that long lost loving relationship.
So what are a few signs of trouble to look for?One of the warning signs that is a huge sign is the lack of communicating.Or should it be said lack of any communication. For any relationship, communication is key. Since it is key, if as a couple you start to sense less communication that is a sign.it is a sign trying to let you know trouble is starting. Whether I am doing couples counseling or as a marriage counselor in San Diego I see it all the time.Because if you are not able to communicate effectively, any small thing can turn into a huge problem.Being able to properly communicate in a relationship helps to stop that.
So as a family therapist San Diego one of the biggest things I do is try to teach the couple how to communicate.One of the keys to unlocking the ability to communicate is the ability to listen.Most people when they think of communicating think it is about talking. But really if you don’t listen well, you don’t really understand each other. So by helping the couple listen better their communication improves greatly.
By being able to recognize a sign like that, a couple will be better able to spot trouble starting. If a couple is able to recognize this in their relationship early they can avoid problems. From my experience the best way to solve problems in a relationship is to avoid them. But if not recognized early, best way to solve them is to learn how to communicate.Sounds elementary but it can and will have a positive effect.